I needed to sit on this. I really needed to sit on this. And then, last night, I had a dream that I told Ellen Degeneres "Congrats on nailing the hot wife." In which Ellen winked back at me and said:"Thanks, I KNOW!" Which finally made me get to this:

A few weeks ago, we all found out that homosexuals could be married... in California. This is awesome.

"Isn't it great! You can go to California and get married!" My optimistic friend says to me as I bite in my salad at lunch.
"Uh huh." I say swallowing a mouth full.
"You don't seem excited... how come?"

Hold it.

I am excited. I'm happy. Dude. I was all about this issue, California passing the legalization of gay marriage, months ago when my friend Megan and Lott introduced me to this website. You can even find something that I wrote for it posted. The idea that a state was lobbying so hard to get this to happen made me giggle in absolute pride. Woah, people are working to make this happen! And when it happened and I caught the first headlines on CNN.com and then on BBC.com... I actually teared up a bit. A state so big with so many people working to make it happen did it... they got what they worked for. Seriously we have an African American and woman president running and we pass legal marriage in 2008.

Un-hold it.

Then, the last thing, "We have an African American and woman president running and we pass legal marriage in 2008!" YIPEEEE!!! This bothered me.

Why is it taking so long? Why is it 2008 and we are FINALLY getting here.

Hold it, again.

I'm not interested in the whole political conversation. I have had them. I know them. I understand them. I'm talking about why this is taking so long to process. It's sort of like downloads. You know how when you have a bad connection to the internet, it takes forever to get a giant file to download on your computer? Usually it's just because we have old versions of programs trying to process new information. Sometimes it's just too much information to process and you need to turn off the computer and restart so there is a fresh approach to the issue.

Do we need to reboot?

Unhold it... again.

I explain to my friend, the one I'm eating a salad with, why I am not "so" excited about all this.

"I still have to leave my city to get married. I still have to go to another state in my country to do something that everyone else gets to do at a court house or in the backyard of their parent's farm. I have to get on a plane and go somewhere else..."

She nods. Because she gets it. Lots of people get it. Many people get it.
And then there are many others people that just. don't. get it.

I am happy and proud and appreciate the work that went in to making this happen. Please, understand that. But, it just blows my mind that it is 2008 and we are just now getting excited about these things, you know, black or women presidents or two same sex people can have legal rights like anyone else. Shouldn't we have gotten excited about those things a long time ago? Why is all this taking so long to process?

Shouldn't we be getting excited about other great things like the possibility of flying cars and iphones that don't freeze and chips in our fingers that let us not have to carry bulky house keys in our pockets and robots that fold our laundry. You know, cool technology making our lives easier or faster so we can enjoy the important things in life... like being with the people we love.

But it seems like unlike technology, are brains aren't evolving fast enough. Versions of our own programs aren't developing as quickly... some people just aren't upgrading.