The other day Josh invited me over to he and his wife's house to play Wii.

Yup. I had to spell it out-- "he and his wife's house"-- mostly because I am still getting used to it. He's married. He has a wife.

It was a beautiful wedding. She's a beautiful woman. And now every time I see him, he's wearing a ring. Which, is also weird. Mostly because Josh isn't the type of guy to accessorize. I've never seen him wear a watch. I mean, really, he goes as far as a tie and I'm blown away.

What's even stranger is that he seems all grown up. Not that he wasn't grown up before, but having a ring on makes you seem more grown up. So does having a wife or having a serious electric mixer or having a Crock-pot OR having this giant flat screen T.V. And when I say giant, I mean 'CAN YOUR NEIGHBORS SEE THAT SCREEN FROM THEIR WINDOW?'

He's has grownup toys. Josh is all grown up. Come to think of it, we are both grownups.

In the last year a lot has changed. And when I really start to think about it, in the last eight years a lot has changed. It's not until moments like seeing your best friend married or trying to decide what the next leap for yourself may be where you sit back, cross your arms and say: When did we grow up?

After lunch Josh loaded the Wii.

"What do you want to play?"

We peered through the options and I screamed: Tennis!

In past summers, Josh and I played tennis in the park by our house. Honestly, we both weren't that good at it... but it was something we loved to do. We hadn't gotten to do it all this past summer. When you're grownups, time seems to move too fast.

Within minutes Josh and I are swinging our arms like crazy knocking the video game's ball back and forth laughing and tripping over ourselves. It was like when we used to play outside. We were just having fun. We weren't married Josh. We weren't single Byron. We weren't "grownups with new changes on the way". We were just Josh and Byron having fun.

Because whether it's in a game of Wii tennis or the game of life, sometimes we have moments where we don't have to define ourselves. Time seems to force us to make big decisions and strategize how those decisions are going to play out. Why not try to slow down and just live in a moment? Like the little worlds we can get lost in while playing a game, we need to find those those moments in life where we can just forget that we have bills to pay or dinner to make or big life choices to decide on. We just need to have fun.

It's usually in those moments where you realize that maybe you never have to really grow up. You just have to play along.